As a long term sufferer in the battle of anaemia and depression I have made it my mission to help others in their time of need, to support and encourage them to push forward. Life can be a tricky messed up ball of never ending disasters, and all a person really needs is someone to talk to.
Illness effects everyone. At one point or another we as humans struggle with the hardship of Illnesses. Colds, flu, sickness etc. But there are other illnesses that strike at the heart of a human, shakes them up and leaves them feeling a little bit emptier than they were before. That being said, there is always help to create a feeling of reassurance and to go on with your wonderful life.
It’s important to realise that if you are feeling LOW you might not be DEPRESSED. Depression is more than simply feeling upset for a couple of days. We all go through stages where we feel low and unhappy every once and a while, but depression is more than that. It can wash over you suddenly or slowly. Depression is a killer.
It effects people in different ways and can be severe or even moderate. If you aren’t sure if you are depressed these are a few things to look out for:
- A feeling of being hopeless or helpless
- Feelings of strong guilt
- Very low self-esteem
- Lack of motivation in things you’d previously enjoy
- Anxiety levels rise e.g. worry
- Feeling irritable when around others
- Struggle to make decisions
- Suicidal thoughts and/or self harm
There are other symptoms: Physical symptoms – lack of energy and/or disturbed sleep. Even Social symptoms – decrease in work achievements and/or taking less opportunities to see your friends/family.
A point to note is, that not everyone will realise if they have these symptoms or not. Often when people get depressed they can become narrow-minded and selfish. Some even punish themselves without realising by closing off and feeling that no-one cares about them. This doesn’t make you a bad person, however it should make you reflect that actually you have a lot of personal healing to do.
How to start feeling better?
- See your doctor. I’m not talking about getting pills or anything, but just talking to someone in therapy might do you wonders. Often talking to someone who isn’t connected to you is easier than talking to family. Dependant on the situation of course.
- Take every day as it comes. Taking small steady steps is a lot healthier for you especially if you’ve suffered for a long period of time with depression.
- Turn to the ones you care about and who care for you too. Sharing how you feel with someone, in a calm relaxed environment with no distractions is a good way to start understanding how you feel personally. It will also let others know too. People can’t guess how you feel, help them to help you by telling them.
- Push yourself. Try not to suffer and punish yourself. Especially if you are dealing with loss/grief. Try instead to wake up, go out and enjoy yourself. You aren’t a terrible person to enjoy your day with a loved one.
- Challenge your negative thinking. Would you say those things you are telling yourself to someone else? “Thought journals” are also good as you can find patterns in your thinking. You can then look at your thoughts in an organised way and ask yourself if what you thought was really the “right” way of looking at it. If it was really warranted.
- Allow yourself to be surrounded by positive people. There is nothing worse than being around someone negative when you haven’t got the energy or the positive mental attitude (PMA) you would like.
If you are struggling with depression, know that there are people who can help. It’s important to know when to get additional help and that is when the depression is just getting worse, instead of getting better.
Be aware that you aren’t a weak person for needing or asking for help, you are strong to ask for it. Sometimes when you are suffering with negative thought patterns it can trigger you to feel unwanted, alone, a failure or sometimes even a lost cause. It can feel endless, daunting and as if you cannot make it through another day. In which case, It’s time to reach out to those who care for you and start to accept the aid and guidance being shown to you. You are not a lost cause, just a lost soul. You will be found.
Thank you for reading,
Be kind to yourself.
Until the next time