Where do I begin today?
Let me lay it out for you simply:
- Dealing with the future/Support
Many of us at some point in our lives will have to come to terms with the huge reality that anxiety will affect us. As hard as it seems, we no longer have to suffer in silence about it. It has become if not “normal” but reasonable to say “I am hurting, I need help.”
The stresses and the general pressure of the population, would lead you to believe that what you may be feeling and/or experiencing is something you alone are feeling/experiencing; that you must deal with it yourself because no one really understands or cares truly about your strife.
This in fact, is completely wrong.
That is your brain being a negative ball of deflated energy that you can rewire if you start the ball rolling in another direction.
Easier said than done though?
Let’s take a look…
Anxiety is a worry or nervousness created by unease of a situation. You may feel fearful or tense about doing something, or where you are. Any physical symptoms are (mainly) caused by the brain sending signals through the nervous system. The nerves make parts of the body work faster in a “fight or flight” scenario, which can be useful in some situations. Although the anxiety I am discussing is of a more malicious kind, that can cause anxiety attacks or panic attacks. Which can appear for no apparent reason and seems irrational.
There are various anxiety disorders to consider, but for this post I will focus on “General Anxiety Disorder” or GAD for short. Which is feeling high levels of stress/worry most (if not every) day. GAD effects 1 in 50 people and is seen mostly in women and older people. However it can begin in your early 20’s.
Causes of GAD are things such as; trauma, genetics and major stress e.g. family crisis.
If you feel you many suffer with anxiety/stress or even GAD I strongly recommend going to visit your local doctor/GP. You wont be wasting their time. They can get you on the right path for support, for example prescribing medicines or counseling. It’s important you get help for this. Alternatively you can try “self-help” by getting leaflets and books on how to combat stress levels. There are also plenty of self-help websites that can help you with your anxieties.
A few things that could help are:
- Deep breathing: A very slow breath in and a long slow breath out. Count up to 10. Or if you are struggling with sleep try the 4-7-8 breathing exercise: Breath in deeply for four seconds. Hold that breath for seven seconds. Breath out slowly for eight seconds. Repeat this four to five times and you should begin to feel sleepy. *yawwwwn*
- Plan to relax: planning to take time out to relax makes you look forward to the day. Forward planning of relaxation time and taking time out because you’ve planned it and know you’ll still be able to do everything makes time out more fun and your stress levels go down. Take that control back!
- Exercise: Go for a long walk, walk the dog, go on a bike ride or go for a run. There are plenty of ways to get some exercise in to take your mind off of everything, or try to sort things out in your mind. What ever the case some exercise will make you feel a bit better. Also swimming or tennis are my personal de-stress favourites – most likely because I can have fun with a friend!
- Refrain from “drinking your sorrows away” : Not a long-term solution, best to be avoided. It will only cause more trouble!
- Grab a book or online course: Unfortunately I do not hold all the answers. Never the less, there are things online that can help you. Try to be willing to put yourself out there and get motivated. Say: “I want to feel better, I will get better!” (And mean it!) Say it a few times in your head if you are struggling. This might seem strange at first, but in all honesty it’s your mentality that will affect how far you go – let’s stay positive – you can do it!
- Back away from the caffeine and drink water: Tea and coffee are not the best thing in the world if you struggle from high anxiety. Try and get at least eight cups of water in a day. I’ve just learnt this myself – I’ve started drinking from a pint glass and I’m drinking at least three pints a day! I am a serial non-drinker and it really affects my health (you’d think I’d learn!) Now just by keeping a pint glass by my bed I have been drinking more and it’s even helped with my eating habits! I feel so much better in myself. Drinking more water helps with fatigue and I actually feel thirsty for once.
- Contact a support group: Your local doctors can help you with finding a support group. Or simply go online and type in “local support groups” and you’ll be on your way to finding the right group for you!
I can understand when you look towards the future you may see an endless road of things to get down and a long list of troubles to overcome. After all we live in a society that is vast and ever-changing and we all have to cope with this on a daily basis. I hope that you will be able to get some motivation by reading my post to at least start to think about getting the help you deserve. Or to help you, help someone else in their struggles of anxiety so you can be supportive to them. I am a believer in the medicine of family and close friendships help. When you have that support behind you, you feel like you can do what you thought you couldn’t do. If you don’t feel like you have anyone I strongly recommend visiting your GP to have a chat straight away.
I can’t say enough the importance of helping yourself, to reach out and get the help. No one knows how you really feel until you tell them. You are hurting yourself by keeping it bottled inside. Adding to the stress, believing no-one cares. How can they, if you are not letting them in? Be yourself, be open. You will get the support you need and deserve!
You’ll be okay.
Thanks for reading,
Until the next time ~