Never Give Up – Your dreams can overcome your nightmares.

Hello reader,

Where do I begin today?

Let me lay it out for you simply:

  • Anxiety
  • Dealing with the future/Support

Let’s begin…

Many of us at some point in our lives will have to come to terms with the huge reality that anxiety will affect us. As hard as it seems, we no longer have to suffer in silence about it. It has become if not “normal” but reasonable to say “I am hurting, I need help.”

The stresses and the general pressure of the population, would lead you to believe that what you may be feeling and/or experiencing is something you alone are feeling/experiencing; that you must deal with it yourself because no one really understands or cares truly about your strife.

This in fact, is completely wrong.

That is your brain being a negative ball of deflated energy that you can rewire if you start the ball rolling in another direction.

Easier said than done though?

Let’s take a look…


Anxiety is a worry or nervousness created by unease of a situation. You may feel fearful or tense about doing something, or where you are. Any physical symptoms are (mainly) caused by the brain sending signals through the nervous system. The nerves make parts of the body work faster in a “fight or flight” scenario, which can be useful in some situations. Although the anxiety I am discussing is of a more malicious kind, that can cause anxiety attacks or panic attacks. Which can appear for no apparent reason and seems irrational.

There are various anxiety disorders to consider, but for this post I will focus on “General Anxiety Disorder” or GAD for short. Which is feeling high levels of stress/worry most (if not every) day. GAD effects 1 in 50 people and is seen mostly in women and older people. However it can begin in your early 20’s.

Causes of GAD are things such as; trauma, genetics and major stress e.g. family crisis.

If you feel you many suffer with anxiety/stress or even GAD I strongly recommend going to visit your local doctor/GP. You wont be wasting their time. They can get you on the right path for support, for example prescribing medicines or counseling. It’s important you get help for this. Alternatively you can try “self-help” by getting leaflets and books on how to combat stress levels. There are also plenty of self-help websites that can help you with your anxieties.

A few things that could help are:

  • Deep breathing: A very slow breath in and a long slow breath out. Count up to 10. Or if you are struggling with sleep try the 4-7-8 breathing exercise: Breath in deeply for four seconds. Hold that breath for seven seconds. Breath out slowly for eight seconds. Repeat this four to five times and you should begin to feel sleepy. *yawwwwn*
  • Plan to relax: planning to take time out to relax makes you look forward to the day. Forward planning of relaxation time and taking time out because you’ve planned it and know you’ll still be able to do everything makes time out more fun and your stress levels go down. Take that control back!
  • Exercise: Go for a long walk, walk the dog, go on a bike ride or go for a run. There are plenty of ways to get some exercise in to take your mind off of everything, or try to sort things out in your mind. What ever the case some exercise will make you feel a bit better. Also swimming or tennis are my personal de-stress favourites – most likely because I can have fun with a friend!
  • Refrain from “drinking your sorrows away” : Not a long-term solution, best to be avoided. It will only cause more trouble!
  • Grab a book or online course: Unfortunately I do not hold all the answers. Never the less, there are things online that can help you. Try to be willing to put yourself out there and get motivated. Say: “I want to feel better, I will get better!” (And mean it!) Say it a few times in your head if you are struggling. This might seem strange at first, but in all honesty it’s your mentality that will affect how far you go – let’s stay positive – you can do it!
  • Back away from the caffeine and drink water: Tea and coffee are not the best thing in the world if you struggle from high anxiety. Try and get at least eight cups of water in a day. I’ve just learnt this myself – I’ve started drinking from a pint glass and I’m drinking at least three pints a day! I am a serial non-drinker and it really affects my health (you’d think I’d learn!) Now just by keeping a pint glass by my bed I have been drinking more and it’s even helped with my eating habits! I feel so much better in myself. Drinking more water helps with fatigue and I actually feel thirsty for once.
  • Contact a support group: Your local doctors can help you with finding a support group. Or simply go online and type in “local support groups” and you’ll be on your way to finding the right group for you!

I can understand when you look towards the future you may see an endless road of things to get down and a long list of troubles to overcome. After all we live in a society that is vast and ever-changing and we all have to cope with this on a daily basis. I hope that you will be able to get some motivation by reading my post to at least start to think about getting the help you deserve. Or to help you, help someone else in their struggles of anxiety so you can be supportive to them. I am a believer in the medicine of family and close friendships help. When you have that support behind you, you feel like you can do what you thought you couldn’t do. If you don’t feel like you have anyone I strongly recommend visiting your GP to have a chat straight away.

I can’t say enough the importance of helping yourself, to reach out and get the help. No one knows how you really feel until you tell them. You are hurting yourself by keeping it bottled inside. Adding to the stress, believing no-one cares. How can they, if you are not letting them in? Be yourself, be open. You will get the support you need and deserve!

You’ll be okay.

Thanks for reading,

Until the next time ~

Picture Found: – Kudos~


Blast from the Past!


In 2012 I created a blog with exactly two posts in it. One was of Anime, the other was of my spiritual nature. I can honestly say It’s strange to be reading something that I had completely forgotten about so long ago. It’s as if I’m staring at the eighteen year old me and saying “wtf are you on about?!” … In all seriousness I have decided to share this with all of the dear readers of mine, because not only does it show me how far I’ve come in three years, but it might help you reflect on just how far you’ve come too.

Meditation and Strange Events (by rabidsquirrels999)   (Haha, old nicknames…)

So, after being spoken to by a medium (clairaudient) he has reminded me of my love of all things spiritual and supernatural. This may be something “far out” to some people but believe me when i say if you can accept things and people as they are you will be a lot happier.

Moving on.

I tried a bit of meditation and blimmey was it hard to shut off! There’s loads of ways to do it, but what i found comfortable was to sit in the middle of my bedroom (some people tell you not to do this in your bedroom because of energies and things but, they also say to do it in a place you feel most comfortable – so it’s up to you!) and just relax and to concentrate on my breathing until I slowly “slipped away” now for the first time this took forever, and i was getting a bit impatient to be honest. But I stuck to it and something… weird happened.

First of all I started to feel a warm sensation in my ears, it was really strange and it was enough to make me want to stop doing the meditation. But i didn’t. I next had a sudden urge say “hello” to the left side of me, which is to me, completely crazy and you would probably agree and say “she’s nuts!” but that’s the thing, I did say “hello” …but when I realised I wasn’t going to get a reply (duh!) I closed my eyes and began to meditate again.

Next I heard what sounded like banging or some sort of noise on the landing. Now that isn’t so strange because as a sort of skeptic and someone who likes to think logically about things, I know that my landing makes weird noises because of the boiler in the attic (i know, that’s strange… but the councils decision) and pipes and things under the floorboards.

So in that case, if I knew this, what made me get up from my peaceful meditation and run to the door, fling it open and say “hello” again? I have no idea. It’s a very …interesting thing.

I haven’t meditated since, because I was told that the warm sensation on my ear could be something to do with being clairaudent so it’s important for me to know some sort of protection incase I get “good” at it and unknowingly call a mischievous spirit… or something.

I’m still being completely open and I’m not saying “oh, so I’m clairaudient then?” absolutely not! But there are questions left unanswered and I’m doing lots of research to find out!

I’m also trying to get in touch with that medium again, he says he does his work for free,  but I would really just like to sit down and have a chat with him, he may be able to help me on my path! So far, no luck, which is really disappointing!

…Three years later, I have slowed down with meditation and spirits. I wouldn’t say it was a phase as I am still very keen to believe there is something more to this life than what we can see with our own eyes. However I have calmed down about it all and I’ve started taking my time. I’ve learnt not to rush and to take things as steady as I can. It’s still hard to shut off during meditation, but I’ve always been quite the “tensed” type anyway. I rarely meditate, only if I feel I need to try and relax. The man I was talking about did get back into contact with me, I asked him if I could meet with him and he told me he goes to this christian/spiritual church on Sundays. I’ve not met with him.

It’s a shame because I could have more answers now, but I felt uncomfortable due to it being a religious spiritual place and I’m not all that religious. I’m in between. Sure having something higher would be fascinating, but I’m rational. I take things as I experience or understand it myself.

It was interesting looking back on my slightly younger self, to realise how far I’ve come in rational thinking and understanding of the world around me. Right now, I’m happy to go along the path I’m on – as I am –  and at the right time something or someone will come along and change things as I know it once again. I’ll be ready for it. 

It may not feel like it, but everything can change in just one year.

Where were you this time last year?

Are you where you wanted to be or thought you would be today?

Thanks for reading,

Until the next time ~

Picture found : – Kudos.