Hello again reader,
Do you ever have one of those days where you just stuff your face full of whatever you can find? Or maybe you go out for a meal and you’re all “I want to have EV-ER-Y-THING!!” Which is completely awesome. However some people both genders, young and old get the same inner “after thoughts” of feeling bad or insecure about what they have eaten. This is because of “ohmergerd, I think I ate half my body weight in food” or “oh…damn i’mma get so fat.” Some people can push past those thoughts and go “Eh, whatever.” But for other’s it’s more of a struggle. Be that as it may, fear not dear reader ’cause you shouldn’t worry about all that rubbish. I mean, there’s a one off binge of all your favourite goodies and there’s … Just binging all the time ’cause you doin’ it for the comfort or just because it’s a habit. Which isn’t so good…
\Food is not your enemy./
My main issue today is media and sizes. ***Sensitive issue warning right here****
Most, if not all people are aware of the effects of anorexia and obesity. Though I myself have never suffered with an eating disorder, I have been in contact be it friends, family with these issues. I’d like to point out though that mainly the people I do come into contact with say they feel like they eat too much and feel like they should go on a “diet.” Then you look at them and go “…but you’re skinny already.” Their response? “Umm yeah… But I could do to lose a few pounds…” – Say what?
There’s tons of pictures online and loads of documentaries stressing about these mental illnesses surrounding these issues. A lot of people say media is to blame, which I wont deny it plays a MASSIVE part to how people think and react to issues. It’s the Judging zone to end all judging zones. With people being so obsessed with the next “do’s and dont’s” … “what’s hot and what’s not” or just simply “How to lose weight” This mainly just involves excessive amounts of exercise and carrot sticks… or pills. Yeeeaaahh… No. Just no.
…I may be exaggerating a teeny tiny bit… but that is the impression they are pouring out into society.
Which leads me onto, modelling. Great if you do it. Though only if you are anorexic! … And really tall… (I really failed that test.)
The world has gone crazy-ass insane. Gone are the days when you could be a size anything and no one would care. I have stumbled across a few “POWER TO THE PEOPLE!” Type messages over the internet recently. Having said that, after delving deeper I came across this quote : – “A plus sized model, in the past, was a size 10-12 – up to a size 18 for fashion. Now, they are calling a size 8 – plus sized,” shares Anthony Higgins – Director at MSA Models. Now I don’t know about you, but my reaction? “Holy… Hold up… Are they serious? They can’t be? Really?!” *Ahem* Girls and boys, If you are troubled by this, don’t be. This is the kind of crazy sh** that makes other people crazy, and why people are having issues with food. If you want to eat that pie. You eat that pie. If you are a healthy individual and I literally just mean not morbidly obese or anorexic, you shouldn’t worry about your weight. This epidemic of “normality” has gone too far. Personally.
But it’s not just overweight people that are getting the “stick” now. It’s anorexic people or just people who are plain skinny. Simple as that. The whole “You’re too thin.” “Gross I can see your bones.” ….Ring a bell? So why is this behaviour of being really thin being accepted in the media business but not in the community? I don’t condone starving yourself thin, I don’t however see a problem if you are just naturally skinny. Some people are just thin. Some people are just naturally big. These people have to work a lot harder to reach their “normal” weight or healthy weight. Seriously it’s a thing – look it up if you don’t believe me.
More to the point, the modelling agency is telling people you need to be under a certain weight/dress size to be a “normal” size. What is normal? Well their “normal” is stick thin women/men with no meat on their bones, telling younger generations “this is what you should look like if you want to be beautiful!” But even if they are not stick thin the media warps their body by using Photoshop. Ugh. That to me isn’t someone who is beautiful, that is someone who is trying to be beautiful in the eyes of someone else, but are killing themselves to do it. When in reality if they eat to become a healthy weight they would more than probably become beautiful on their own. What they are doing to themselves isn’t beauty. It is perversion.
I’d like to bring your attention to this article, fairly recent actually. Keira Knightly (actress) trying to bring a little power back to the people. Or perhaps just to gain a little respect back for herself. In any case, she had agreed to pose topless for an article in a magazine under the condition that it wasn’t tampered with. A big virtual hug to her! She said to the Times:–
(November 2014) “I’ve had my body manipulated so many different times for so many different reasons, whether it’s paparazzi photographers or for film posters. That [shoot] was one of the ones where I said: ‘OK, I’m fine doing the topless shot so long as you don’t make them any bigger or retouch.’ Because it does feel important to say it really doesn’t matter what shape you are.”
*stands up and applauds*
So… yeah she was talking about her breasts mainly and not her size so much… Nevertheless it makes the point that this type of photography happens so much now that a lot of people have just accepted it as normal. If you add a little extra blush here or smooth out some of the lines there, a lot of people have liked the results because they see it as “perfection.” Despite this, if everyone became confident with their bodies and said the same thing to photographers/media, then people might start to realise the damage they are doing to themselves. They may actually start accepting those lines on their faces and that maybe their stomach isn’t as flat as a pancake. Yet not care, and accept and love their bodies for how they are.
Easier said then done though, right?
There is so much concern nowadays to what is right or wrong, or what is normal or not. You aren’t a freak if you weigh more than the person sitting next to you. Vice versa. What matters is whether you are healthy and happy in yourself or not.
The “plus-size” debate is getting a lot of people down. I’m not going to put a gender on it, because we can be smart enough to say; “Ladies, the men have some thoughts about their weight just as you do.” Doesn’t matter how tough they may think they are. Though I am going to use women sizes for this part. Just be aware blokes don’t have it easy either. Okay? … Okay.
If I hear one more person say size 12 is “plus-size” I might hit that person in the face… with a chair. (I don’t condone violence… Yet.) It’s the most ludicrous thing I have ever heard. The average woman in the UK is apparently a size 16. They say this is a plus size and there is so much debate on it I don’t know what the hell to think anymore. In the US however it’s around a size 14. I’m not sure if sizing should be so much of an issue as there is so many different body shapes to consider it’s all a bit… Shmer? I mean I have to go up a top size just for my chest alone sometimes… and it’s the same with my legs. I’m quite thin so it’s hella annoying when I could fit into size 8 jeans but my hips don’t lie. (I totally just used that on purpose…) So I have to take a couple sizes of the same thing into a changing room just because I’m not sure what size I am… and then every shop has different sizes… like hell. I have to make sure I have a whole day just to go out shopping. Just in case the shop I go into first doesn’t have the “right” size. To which, I’m then looking all around town for a similar item of clothing. …I am reminded as to why I don’t go shopping for clothes very often.
So… Getting back to the point, I guess people are getting… Bigger? Maybe? I just don’t like labels. Gon’ rip those labels out. Focus on your BMI, not what the media says. Listen to our friends the science nerds. The doctors, who help us in our struggles and make things better. Or maybe just not care. Whatever floats your boat.
On another note, people who say “You’re not curvy you’re just fat” – with malice dripping from their voice…Shame on you! Using “fat” as an insult… What did life ever do to you? Except brainwash you to believe being different means you’re a bad person or a freak. Go… Educate yourself.
I could rant for a lifetime on this. Maybe I will? I have stuck to women’s sizing so if you are a guy reading this, tall, short, big, small – apologies. Nevertheless whoever you are, if you are happy with your weight and you are healthy then kudos. If you are not, don’t suffer alone, in silence. Speak to your close friends, family and perhaps your doctor. Don’t get sucked into the media, they are all biased anyway.
I regret nothing.
Until the next time,
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson.