Never Give Up – Your dreams can overcome your nightmares.

Hello reader,

Where do I begin today?

Let me lay it out for you simply:

  • Anxiety
  • Dealing with the future/Support

Let’s begin…

Many of us at some point in our lives will have to come to terms with the huge reality that anxiety will affect us. As hard as it seems, we no longer have to suffer in silence about it. It has become if not “normal” but reasonable to say “I am hurting, I need help.”

The stresses and the general pressure of the population, would lead you to believe that what you may be feeling and/or experiencing is something you alone are feeling/experiencing; that you must deal with it yourself because no one really understands or cares truly about your strife.

This in fact, is completely wrong.

That is your brain being a negative ball of deflated energy that you can rewire if you start the ball rolling in another direction.

Easier said than done though?

Let’s take a look…


Anxiety is a worry or nervousness created by unease of a situation. You may feel fearful or tense about doing something, or where you are. Any physical symptoms are (mainly) caused by the brain sending signals through the nervous system. The nerves make parts of the body work faster in a “fight or flight” scenario, which can be useful in some situations. Although the anxiety I am discussing is of a more malicious kind, that can cause anxiety attacks or panic attacks. Which can appear for no apparent reason and seems irrational.

There are various anxiety disorders to consider, but for this post I will focus on “General Anxiety Disorder” or GAD for short. Which is feeling high levels of stress/worry most (if not every) day. GAD effects 1 in 50 people and is seen mostly in women and older people. However it can begin in your early 20’s.

Causes of GAD are things such as; trauma, genetics and major stress e.g. family crisis.

If you feel you many suffer with anxiety/stress or even GAD I strongly recommend going to visit your local doctor/GP. You wont be wasting their time. They can get you on the right path for support, for example prescribing medicines or counseling. It’s important you get help for this. Alternatively you can try “self-help” by getting leaflets and books on how to combat stress levels. There are also plenty of self-help websites that can help you with your anxieties.

A few things that could help are:

  • Deep breathing: A very slow breath in and a long slow breath out. Count up to 10. Or if you are struggling with sleep try the 4-7-8 breathing exercise: Breath in deeply for four seconds. Hold that breath for seven seconds. Breath out slowly for eight seconds. Repeat this four to five times and you should begin to feel sleepy. *yawwwwn*
  • Plan to relax: planning to take time out to relax makes you look forward to the day. Forward planning of relaxation time and taking time out because you’ve planned it and know you’ll still be able to do everything makes time out more fun and your stress levels go down. Take that control back!
  • Exercise: Go for a long walk, walk the dog, go on a bike ride or go for a run. There are plenty of ways to get some exercise in to take your mind off of everything, or try to sort things out in your mind. What ever the case some exercise will make you feel a bit better. Also swimming or tennis are my personal de-stress favourites – most likely because I can have fun with a friend!
  • Refrain from “drinking your sorrows away” : Not a long-term solution, best to be avoided. It will only cause more trouble!
  • Grab a book or online course: Unfortunately I do not hold all the answers. Never the less, there are things online that can help you. Try to be willing to put yourself out there and get motivated. Say: “I want to feel better, I will get better!” (And mean it!) Say it a few times in your head if you are struggling. This might seem strange at first, but in all honesty it’s your mentality that will affect how far you go – let’s stay positive – you can do it!
  • Back away from the caffeine and drink water: Tea and coffee are not the best thing in the world if you struggle from high anxiety. Try and get at least eight cups of water in a day. I’ve just learnt this myself – I’ve started drinking from a pint glass and I’m drinking at least three pints a day! I am a serial non-drinker and it really affects my health (you’d think I’d learn!) Now just by keeping a pint glass by my bed I have been drinking more and it’s even helped with my eating habits! I feel so much better in myself. Drinking more water helps with fatigue and I actually feel thirsty for once.
  • Contact a support group: Your local doctors can help you with finding a support group. Or simply go online and type in “local support groups” and you’ll be on your way to finding the right group for you!

I can understand when you look towards the future you may see an endless road of things to get down and a long list of troubles to overcome. After all we live in a society that is vast and ever-changing and we all have to cope with this on a daily basis. I hope that you will be able to get some motivation by reading my post to at least start to think about getting the help you deserve. Or to help you, help someone else in their struggles of anxiety so you can be supportive to them. I am a believer in the medicine of family and close friendships help. When you have that support behind you, you feel like you can do what you thought you couldn’t do. If you don’t feel like you have anyone I strongly recommend visiting your GP to have a chat straight away.

I can’t say enough the importance of helping yourself, to reach out and get the help. No one knows how you really feel until you tell them. You are hurting yourself by keeping it bottled inside. Adding to the stress, believing no-one cares. How can they, if you are not letting them in? Be yourself, be open. You will get the support you need and deserve!

You’ll be okay.

Thanks for reading,

Until the next time ~

Picture Found: – Kudos~


Stressed much?

Hey all,

Welcome to another blog post of “The Enlightenment Aspiration.” (Or ‘TEA’ for short – I love it. Not gonna deny it.)

Today I want to discuss stress. We all get stressed. Hormones such as cortisol attack our systems so heart rate goes up, as well as risk to high blood pressure… You cant concentrate, you start to get hot, you can also be prone to headaches and anger. Some of us are even stressed right now. Not all of us realise when we are stressed (believe it or not.) So I’m going to talk about some of the causes and symptoms of stress and ways you can deal with it.

Let’s begin:

What can cause stress? (In no particular order…)

  • Sense of control – do you feel in control of the situation?
  • Your own attitude – Have you got an “all or nothing” attitude? Or Is the world out to get you?
  • Negative thoughts/emotions  – ties into your own attitude.
  • Your ability to deal with and understand your own emotions.
  • The people around you – how supported do you feel?
  • Hormones – can be a real struggle to deal with and can make us feel stressed… ladies in particular.
  • Life changes (extreme) – loss of a loved one, moving away etc.
  • Work/School – an obvious one for most.
  • Relationships (all kinds)  – boyfriend/girlfriend, family, friends, colleagues etc.
  • Generally being busy – Being busy all day every day is tiring, which makes things harder to deal with.
  • Financial worries – money is an obvious stress trigger.
  • Depression – this causes a monumental amount of unwanted stress (not that stress is wanted…pft.)
  • Unrealistic expectations of yourself and those around you – “No one’s perfect but…”

So… What do I need to look out for?

  • Inability to concentrate
  • Short patience
  • Aches in muscles
  • Headaches
  • Chest pain
  • Frequent illnesses
  • Lethargic/Insomnia
  • Frustration
  • Upset and/or Moodiness
  • Avoidance of others
  • Feeling sick/loss of appetite
  • Eating more/comfort eating
  • Feeling bad about yourself (low confidence/self esteem)
  • Depression

What about how to deal with these types of emotions?

How to relax and de-stress yourself… (If only for a while…)

  • Set aside “me time.” Sure you have a lot to do, and nothing can wait and it’s all crazy right now… right? Wrong. Whether it’s just 30 minutes in a day, you can have your time. Take some well deserved “me time” back!
  • Relaxation methods – eh… this can help, if you are super keen in meditation and yoga. The problem is, when you’re quite stressed it’s hard to concentrate on your breathing and sitting still for ages. I’d personally take 10 deep breaths then lie down to watch a film! With icecream. Your choice. Or baths. Warm bubble baths help moods and also any aches and pains you might have from a long day.
  • Exercise – A simple jog ’round the block, or a stroll in a nice park on a lovely day can up your mood.
  • Sleep more – get your 8 hours of sleep. Or try to get as near that as possible. If you are finding it hard to sleep, I suggest getting some lavender fragrance spray that you can put on pillow cases. Should help you really well. If you don’t like lavender, go for one of your favourite fragrances I think other choices are lemon, mint etc. Or you can use a pot-pourri bowl and put it in the room.
  • Eat healthily  – over or under eating can cause discomfort in body, mind and soul. Try to eat what is suitable for you.
  • Music – I may be biased because I love music, but sometimes rocking out to my favourite rock albums or dancing to some country/rock music around my room makes me feel better. What about you?
  • Walk away from that argument you’re having – I mean don’t storm off. But inhale that deep breath, stop talking for a moment and take the time to calm down in another room before discussing things further. Sometimes it might help to go on a 10 minute walk before continuing. Just be open about it, don’t leave the other person guessing what you’re doing or why you suddenly walked away; it would just cause more stress.
  • They say, chewing gum is helpful… Eh.. .it’s not for me. But it might help you?
  • Turn your phone off… or just on silent – if it’s your phone thats stressing you out. Help yourself. Turn it off. Or has some person been bugging you for ages? Don’t reply. As tempting as it may be. You have a choice.
  • Art – believe it or not some people find it fun to de-stress by being creative. Make something fun with your hands like a card or painting. It doesn’t have to be amazing art work –  arts and crafts isn’t just for kids. I like to do some knitting sometimes, though if I’m really stressed I cant concentrate on it for too long.
  • Got clutter? – remove that clutter in your home. Recycle it, bin it, bag some of it up and give it to charity, I don’t mind. If you don’t really need it or use it, it can go. I find anyway that a good tidy up of my home and a bit of a rearrangement of furniture somehow rearranges my outlook and emotions in my mind.
  • Writing – Any writer would find writing relaxing (at the right time). I don’t believe it would work everytime… But sometimes getting engrossed into writing can set your mind onto other things which can help you feel less stressed. Or by writing you can write down your emotions and what’s going on and suddenly you have some control back and you can deal with it. You don’t necessarily even have to be a “writer” to write these things down.
  • Do something fun – ties in with “me time” but it doesn’t have to. Plan something to look forward to for the weekend or your next pay check. Going out for the day with friends, family or just by yourself can give you the motivation you may need to get through the week. When the weeks over you then get to de-stress with the fun thing you planned!

I hope some of these ideas have helped. You may have already had these ideas to begin with… But hey, the only person who can really know how to de-stress you, is you.  Don’t let stress win, our mission shall be to learn to be optimistic in our thinking and strive to be as laid-back as possible (without dire consequences). It’s time to help yourself.

Until the next time! – Picture found. Kudos.

Of Tea and Muffins

Hello again reader, and friend/s (just incase)

The events of this week are as follows:

1) Wake up

2) Go to work + work butt off

3) Go home

4) Eat and get ready for the day ahead

5) Sleep

*Repeat until Friday night.

– Ah, the working.

Working, is great. People get bored of their job, I don’t. Probably never will. The only part of the job I don’t like is not being able to be at home. Haha, sounds lazy I know. But when you aren’t working, you get to do everything you want to do. There is no schedule – except eating and sleeping. Even then you can decide. However I have found at work that I can have a cuppa tea whenever I want. So… It’s not all that bad.

After trying desperately to get a job, and it being the job I’ve always wanted, sure the pay isn’t fantastic but what you get out of it is good. Thus, it’s worth it in the end.

Yet it’s nice to have a moment to relax and to come online and just waffle on about nothing in particular. These brief moments is something I miss in my working week especially. Even on the weekends I don’t seem to stop. I ask – where’s my “me” time?!”

It’s good, if I’m honest to keep busy and get things done. It just makes these moments even more special and I’m glad I get to share it with you.

It’s 3:45pm, when I last looked at the clock it was 1pm. This shows how busy I have been, on a weekend as well. I always seem to find myself helping other people with their endeavours…I don’t know about you reader, but it’s nice to do someone an unexpected kindness every once in a while. My dad is now looking for a new job. He’s not the spring chicken he once was so I offered to help him out. It just takes some of the stress off of him. I never once thought when I was younger that I’d be helping my father out with something like this, or anything at all for that matter. (Another story.) Just goes to show you what forgiveness can do and also what growing up can do to a person.

It doesn’t take a lot, to do something kind for someone else like this. Even if you don’t know them. If they look like they are having a hard time or even struggling with their shopping. It’s kind to lend a hand if you can. Worst case scenario – they say no. But that’s okay, at least you’ve checked and don’t need to worry about them. Maybe you don’t worry anyway because you don’t notice? Step back and take a look at what’s going on around you. There’s a bigger picture to see, and you might be able to do something good. Not only will helping them make them happy, but it will make you feel good too! The plus side being, it’s not like having to work or do a chore to help someone who needs it. It’s actually a stress relief.

Back to the point, it’s good to have a little bit of “me” time. Don’t you think? During the week I get so little of it. As people are either calling or coming to me and asking me for help, advice or just to hang out. I wouldn’t change it for the world. Despite this though, I can’t help but enjoy a cup of tea and a blueberry muffin all to myself, on my own, watching something good on my laptop that I’m interested in at the moment. (At the moment, it’s re-watching Black Books – lovin’ it!) Curling up in my many blankets and just relaxing for an hour. It’s just… nice. No stress, no worries just me and whatever I feel like doing. Might even be reading a book. (I’m tackling the Morganville Vampire series by Rachel Caine at the moment. Onto the second book! – I don’t mean to advertise but if you are interested in that kind of book, I recommend it! Go check it out!)

If you don’t get any “me” time, ask yourself “why not?” It’s good for you and your mind to have that time for yourself. You shouldn’t feel bad for wanting time alone. Or even if you don’t like to be on your own for a while it’s good to try it. It gives you that balance back, leaves you alone with your thoughts. You can work things out in your mind, look through things properly without being interrupted. Also it let’s you do what YOU want to do without having to go along with someone else’s schedule.

It’s tough if you have a family of your own to make time, but it’s not impossible. Take turns with the children, your other half or if you are on your own – a trustworthy adult will be able to look after your children for an hour or two while you relax your stress from the week away. It’s healthy for body, mind and soul for you to take an opportunity to do it, so why not?!

Also if you have a partner and you live together, again it’s not impossible to have time alone. In fact both individuals should have some time alone to themselves once in a while. I personally – you may disagree – think it’s unhealthy to be in each others “pockets” 24/7. Being at work, doesn’t count! I’m talking about complete alone time. No ifs or buts on this one.

So from this moment on, I would like you dear reader, to liberate yourself if you aren’t doing so already to take an hour or two back for yourself. Claim it, own it, it is yours to do whatever you see fit! Been busy all week? Take time to relax. Or go for a walk or bike ride. Let your mind relax and not worry about anything for a while. Re-charge that mind of yours!

Drink some tea… eat a muffin. It’s all good to me.

Thanks for reading

Until the next time ~

Picture from – (such a tasty picture, kudos to the person who took this)